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Nepročitano 28-02-12, 19:40   #21
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Imam osobu u životu s kojom ni na koji način nisam emocionalno vezana(ili ipak jesam,na neki način?),poprilično je negativna i ne znam zašto uopće je u mom životu.da nešto naučim?svakako :) da li mi je neophodna? nikako :)

da,često u razmišljanjima odem u :koji ja imam problem da mi to smeta itd...

došla sam do zaključka da nemam problem.ona ga ima :)

i nije mi toliko bitna u životu da bih se trebala zamarati sa njenim problemom.imam dovoljno svojih :)


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da,često u razmišljanjima odem u :koji ja imam problem da mi to smeta itd...

došla sam do zaključka da nemam problem.ona ga ima :)
upravo si izvukla bit: izuzetno je važno doći do točke kada si savršeno svjestan što je čiji problem.


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slažem se . ne trebamo uvijek gledati da je sve naš problem .sami sebe negativno programiramo. pogotovo u situacijama koje su nam potpuno nepotrebne i iz kojih možemo lagano šmugnuti


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ja sam osoba koja je u teoriji veoma dobra, pomoc nekome dat savjet bliznjima, to mi jako dobro ide. Al kada se radi o meni tada nitijedan savjet ne mogu primijenit na sebi, a definitvno mi najvise smeta kada ono sto ja drugima govorim da ne rade, uhvatim sebe da ja te greske radim. To bi zeljela promijeniti jer treba pocet sebe mjenjati, tesko da cemo druge moc pormijeniti. Ali i kada odlucimo pozitivnu energiju usmjeriti prema sebi nazalost osobe oko nas tu energiju privlače. i nama daju negativnu energiju. zato smatram da bi se trebali mjenjati i mi ljudi oko nas. zajedno bi trebali raditi promjene. nazalost osoba koja sa mnom zivi nije losa osoba nego je jednostavno puna negativne energije, nezadovoljna zivotom, i tesko je zadrzati samo pozitivnu energiju kada ste okruzeni takvim osobama
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teško je tražiti nekoga da se promjeni.najčešće kad prihvatimo osobe onakvima kakve jesu,one se počnu mijenjati.automatski nas više ni ne smeta to ponašanje,pa si svakako na dobitku.


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teško je znam ...puno je lakše ovako u teoriji,ali razumijem te potpuno :)

ni ja ne prihvačam sve oko sebe :) bilo bi puno lakše da možemo prihvatiti jedni druge onakvima kakvi jesu :)


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teško je tražiti nekoga da se promjeni.najčešće kad prihvatimo osobe onakvima kakve jesu,one se počnu mijenjati.automatski nas više ni ne smeta to ponašanje,pa si svakako na dobitku.
optimistice Frišku figu se mijenjaju, onda se tek lijepo opuste i misle da je sve savršeno ok. A tebi onda preostaje nosit i svoje i njiihovo emocionalno smeće.
Ali, da ti može bit lakše ako se pomiriš sa sudbinom i stvarima kakve jesu, tu se u potpunosti slažem.
Slažem se i da ne treba tražit da se netko promijeni. To nikad ne funkcionira. Jedino što možeš jest upozoriti, ali...ali...bez prevelikih očekivanja.


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Prihvatiti nekoga onakvog kakav jeste ne znači i dalje prihvatati njegovo smeće i učiniti njemu da se osjeća dobro. Ne znači ni početi se praviti da je sve ok, ako nam nije ok

Prihvatiti nekoga znači znati da iako ne razumijemo zašto je ta osoba takva (stvarno ne moramo tragati za razlozima i analizirati) da je to za tu osobu trenutno jedina opcija koju zna živjeti.
Na nama je da i kada radi što radi, a mi smo to prije vidjeli kao nešto što nas ugrožava, iznađemo modus svog prihvatanja tog trenutka kao naše stvarnosti i da zaustavimo misli koje procjenjuju, označavaju, idu u prošlost i budućnost... Tako ćemo prouzrokovati emocije u sebi koje će nam štetiti, a i našem odnosu sa tom osobom.
Može se početi sa time što ne reagujemo, iako iznutra buktimo jer smo se već doveli do emocija Pa tako malo treniramo ne-reakciju i vidimo šta se dešava kad bujica otrovnih riječi nije napustila naše tijelo. Tada sebi kažemo - sljedeći put ću ostati u sada bez misli. Ta osoba kaže/radi svoje, a ja ću posmatrati njene izraze lica i primjetiti kako ona sebe truje emocijama...
Tu bi trebalo doći do empatije - meni bude žao tih osoba... Naravno, kad bi tada to rekli tim osobama, vjerovano bi ih povrijedili i isprovocirali još više.
Onda treba bar osjetiti suosjećanje koje će voditi prihvatanju bar nekog dijela te osobe i onoga što radi.
Nereakcija je isto reakcija, ali nam omogućava da se smjestimo u posmatrača, da pustimo svijesti da kroz nas djeluje, a da ušutkamo ego.

Vremenom, svijesno djelujući, ćemo odučiti stare forme našeg ponašanja, i početi stvarati nove. Te nove, jer su iz svjesnog, su sve bolje po nas. Tako ćemo se zateći u nekom momentu kako reagujemo kao Kung Fu panda, koristeći tuđu negativnu energiju usmjerenu kontra nas, da bi je vratili nazad pošiljaocu. Naravno, u ljubavi, jer sve drugo nije prava stvar
E sad, to sve ima nekoliko faza, i sve traje, ali kada krenemo kreirati novi život za sebe, mislim da se u stvari vraćamo pravome sebi. Energija koju dobijamo time predstavlja neiscrpan resurs za sve s čime se susretnemo.
Meni je jako pomagalo da u meditaciji kroz reiki (a reiki nije neophodan) kad god imam potrebu, razgovaram sa tom osobom zamišljajući je kraj sebe. Trebalo bi reći sve što u stvarnosti ne bismo rekli, pitati osobu zašto to radi, reći kako se osjećamo, sve što nam padne na pamet. Trebamo zamisliti osobu da nam odgovara i saslušati je. Pošto kreiramo dijalog, trebamo dati svim stranama vrijeme za govor Dijalog treba usmjeriti na završetak koji će voditi smirenju. Ne moramo doći do rješenja, ali ne trebamo i u meditaciji otići u svađe Mi smo tu istinski kreator, pa ajmo to uraditi kako nama godi.
Dok to radimo, razgovaramo sa višim ja te osobe, i iako je ona nesvjesna, dobila je naše informacije i emocije koje smo tom meditacijom proizveli.

Kako sam ja znala u ovome plakati...

Sve što ne želimo, ne trebamo raditi. Sve u čemu ne želimo biti, trebamo napustiti. Sve s najmanje gubitaka po nas, a onda i po druge. Ako ne znamo reći NE, trebamo početi
Meni se sada NE razgovara o ovome, osjećam se loše, ne vidim da idemo u pravcu koji je dobar.
Ja NE želim još jednom o tome pričati.
NE mogu to sada uraditi, čim ovo završim, hoću.
Meni se NE ide tamo, radije ću...
Ne.
Ne želim.
Neću. Ne. Ne. Ne. Ne. Ne....
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ovo sa razgovorom mi se tako pari dobro. morat cu to prakticirati jer samo u trenutnoj situaciji gdje bih jednoj osobi s kojom se viđam rekla sve iskreno ali se bojim. strah me. tako da bi ovo bas bilo dobro.
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